The problems arose more in those that struggled, and where I found myself most challenged. They were the ones that were constantly looking at what they were doing and comparing it to what someone else was. Each week they would highlight the inadequacies, the faults and failures with their own game. What it did was brought about a desire to fade into the background and not even try, especially if another might see them. What I heard when they thought no one was listening was 'I will never be as good as, as skilled as they are', 'I will never get this right and certainly wont attaint unto the levels that you can', 'If I cant do it good enough and I wont be perfect like everyone else why bother'. To which I would teach them, 'We all do things the way we do, and we are all unique and have our own gifts as well as our own faults, even if you do see them. Everyone messes up some time. Everyone has a bad shot occasionally. So enjoy where your at, learn, grow and continue. Only then can you be the best you can be.' Many many times it was the strugglers that had the staying power and the breezers that stopped playing.
I see this time and time again, in the churches, the very same mentalities and process. Those that have been there a while, when not in a place of duress. Those that have learned how to get it on when the Holy Ghost is moving. Those that know how to act, and sound and be that they can get the best out of God. And I praise God for them. And then those new babes, the beginers looking at them with awe, and realising their own inadequacies in their walk. Every church knows those that come in, embrace the message, embrace the ways and just seem to fly through. Those that seem to find a niche and take things in their stride, practice at home, and have faith in what they were doing and what they could do.
Every church has the midstream, those that stick it out, but occassionally miss hit, falter and totally mess up. And I believe every church has those that can only see how hopeless it is, and what a waste of time it is for them to even be there. Those that struggle week in and week out. Those that can only see how 'perfect' everyone else is and how useless and pathetic they are. The ones who seem unable to bypass their own negative thinking and embrace the certainty of failure. Those that desire to quit, to give up and to hide, not only from those around them, but from themselves and from God.
I want to encourage you, if you know someone like this that it is possible, if you have the time, patience, heart and prayer time to bring them through and see them achieve depths and consistencies others may never reach. It is possible to embrace them, and teach them a new way to see things and give them a hope, a reason to continue. Each interaction is a chance to search yourself and your ways and attitude, in order that you can offer the best for them. There are so many personalities and so many different skills, gifts as there are perceptions and understandings. There are also some times when you just need to let them go.
I pray God grant you the wisdom to know what to do and say, when to hold fast and when to let go. I pray HE grant you the boldness to do all you need to do and the peace to know when you have, it is ok. I pray God bless you and keep you. That you embrace Jesus to enjoy where your at, learn, grow and continue. That no matter how long you have been seeking God that you find all you need in order to be all you were created and called to be. To the gory of God and to the labour of the harvest.